When he sees he can make you happy, he will be motivated to do whatever he can to keep you happy.
You might be thinking: “But I always tell him what I want and he still doesn’t do it!
In fact, I think I have an easier time explaining why men do things than I do with women.
I have been writing about relationships for a while now and over the years I have noticed some prominent points of confusion, ones that seem to be shared by women of all ages from all around the world (no exaggeration).
I don’t know what the biggest relationship concern was back in the days of touch-tone phones, but these days, it’s all about a guy’s texting habits: why he used to text so much in the beginning and then stopped, why he takes so long to reply, why he disappears for days at a time, why his texts are so short, etc., etc.
The really sad/funny thing is that men have NO idea how intensely their texting habits are being scrutinized. There are all kinds of reasons why this is such an issue for women and why men are so oblivious to it – reasons we’ve discussed at length in previous articles– but the takeaway is that this whole thing is a non-issue for men. Yeah, they’ll text a lot in the beginning when they’re trying to win you over, but it’s not sustainable or realistic to continue at that level indefinitely.
This doesn’t mean you have a great and profound relationship, it doesn’t really mean…anything.
MORE- Ask a Guy: When a Guy Doesn’t Text Back Guys don’t think about relationships as often as women do. It doesn’t mean they don’t care; it’s just not a central point of focus.
The mistake that many make is thinking that the sudden drop in texts means he’s losing interest or doesn’t care. Most often, he’s just settling back into his normal routine. You can spend all day going back and forth with some guy about nonsense.For instance, let’s say a woman is in a truly amazing relationship and the only problem is her man has yet to say those three not-so-little words.She may start to obsess over why he hasn’t said it and what it means.The fact that a man doesn’t text you as much or as often as you’d like doesn’t mean he doesn’t care about you – he’s usually just focusing on something else and most men have a difficult time seeing beyond a given task at hand.This is hard for most women to understand because women can switch from one task to the next and back again with much more ease.
The trick is to do it in a way that’s encouraging, not one that’s threatening, demanding, or nagging.