Adult children are, after all, adults who have a right to live their own lives.And speaking up could sour the parent-child relationship.
Waiting and praying is a good idea anyway, but it is a really good idea when the alternative is digging a trench between a woman who could turn out to be your daughter-in-law, your son’s first priority, and the mother of your grandchildren.
It is acceptable for both parents to take part if both feel very strongly about the matter and both get along well with the child.
But you don’t want your child to feel ganged up on. If you begin this conversation by blurting out your opinion, you and your child will immediately be at odds.
I can’t remember if I ever even knew “Abdomen Girl’s” name.) There is a reason your son chose a girl who isn’t [fill-in-the-blank]. Yes, she probably isn’t a good influence, but influence typically works both ways.
I’m not suggesting you think less of your own child, just that you think honestly about him.