“What happens in relationships is that couples begin to take each other for granted and forget that they have to work at and nurture their relationship over time,” says Mary Marano, a Toronto-based therapist.
“Love takes us so far and the rest is a lot of work.” To some extent, slipping into lengthier silences can be completely normal.
Accordingly, cybersex is about sex, but a form of sexual encounter involves experiences typical of other encounters, such as sexual arousal, masturbation, orgasm, and satisfaction.
Indeed, people consider cybersex to have a high degree of psychological reality—but many do not consider it to be consider it to be infidelity.
These people believe that if they do not even know the real name of their cybermate—and never actually see them—their affair cannot be regarded as from a moral point of view; it's no different from reading a novel or other form of entertainment.
In other words, a way to play out fantasies in a safe environment.
Once you get past the euphoria of early days, the, “I can’t believe it’s already five o’clock in the morning and we’re still up talking,” excitement, and once the daily grind of dishes and daycare and dividing practical responsibilities kicks in, you might find yourselves, at times, more exhausted than elated in each other’s company.
’ That’s when some couples begin to blame each other, and eventually two people can just end up not talking to each other.” According to Suzanne Phillips, a psychologist and the co-author of , silences can be the result of four common relationship scenarios: 1.
Many of them believe cybersex to be similar to pornography—an extension of fantasy that actually helps to keep them from physical affairs with other people.
Consider the following statement from a 41-year-old married man (all citations are from to cheat—something that may even add spice to their offline relationship.
“Novelty stimulates interest, co-participation, neurochemistry and even sexual arousal,” she says.
“What we know about domains of communication is that when two people are doing something with a mutual goal, they inevitably speak.” 4.
Reduce distractions Marano recommends eliminating cell phones, video games or computers for an uninterrupted period of together time, where you can just focus on connecting with each other.