We do have a responsibility, however, to take insights from our almost-relationships and bridge them to the process of looking for those that will hopefully last a lifetime.Following the wedding-that-never-was to Connor, I considered closing my online dating accounts and relying on more traditional social situations to find potential mates.Connor was bright, personable and cute, and, if I had it to do over, I’d take the dirt road to a realistic romance as opposed to a high-speed freeway to yet another dating crash-and-burn. (that's Before Connor) saw a number of similar dating fails, albeit none weighted down by the gravity of a premature knot-tying discussion.The 0-to-100 nature of our texting tragedy ultimately made us both question our intentions and feelings, putting a fatal kibosh on what might have been a long-term love affair. That's not to say there was a complete scarcity of viable suitors, but many wanted to know everything about me by text and phone before even agreeing to coffee, let alone lunch or the lifetime commitment cemented by dinner. Online sites and mobile apps helped cultivate this modern-day, anonymous answer to speed dating, and I fell into their webs.When Connor promised to sweep me off my feet, I didn’t imagine that it would be with a marriage proposal on our first date.He arrived at my door with an engagement band, a red rose, and a basket of good intentions; missing, though, was everything that falls between meeting in person and standing at the altar.Studios, Miramax Films, New Line Cinema, and Lifetime Networks.
We had an undeniable rapport and senses of humor that appeared to be complementary.
It was as if we had covered a year’s worth of get-to-know-you ground in a concentrated couple of days, and, admittedly, I was in love with the idea that a man could be so enamored before even laying eyes on me.
There was little chance that the heightened romantic frenzy buzzing between our smart phones could survive outside of its digital bubble.
Connor and I were a “cake mix” couple — just add one date! Our introduction led to copious amounts of texting, a back-and-forth maelstrom that quickly created a false sense of intimacy.
Borne from our textual chemistry were deep conversations about families, values, and interests.
In a more traditional dating circumstance, there may have been some butterflies and excitement, sure, but the risk of a crippling fall would have been diminished without the opportunity to climb so high in the first place.