We lived in the same dorm and dated for about 6 months before he went back to Japan.I followed him for a 15 month study abroad in Japan (I had already planned to study in Japan, dating him extended my study abroad by about 4 months).If you're anything like us, you're constantly at a loss for new and interesting date ideas.Seriously, we love dinner and a movie as much as the next girl but every now and then you need something a little more exciting.If you can’t – just keep the date you get to see them again someone in plain view (like taped to the back of your door or on the refrigerator). Every time you visit each other, the cycle repeats from step 1. Final thoughts: Relationships are not easy, but long-distance relationships are especially challenging. I’ve been in a failed long-distance relationship (where I was putting in more effort than he was) and it was incredibly frustrating and painful. I understand not wanting to break up because you love them, but you have to realize that every day they spend in a long-distance relationship, they are sacrificing opportunities (job, friends, potential lovers) to stay with you.If you really love each other and are 100% committed to making it work, regardless of the cost, then you have hope. My failed long-distance relationship only lasted about a month and a half and the entire time I thought there was something wrong with me.I don’t have energy for him, I don’t want him to see me because I feel useless, or maybe I feel like I don’t have time.Skyping becomes something I dread doing, instead of what used to be the highlight of my day (earlier in step 3). One or both parties start to replace their significant other with something (another person, a hobby, or extra work). Resentment causes fighting and even more depression.
But you also can’t stop loving someone just because they live too far away. It always hits me the hardest when my fiancé’s bus pulls away. The basic gist of replacement is that you’ve gotten tired of that hole in your heart, so you try to use all that frustration, depression, and loneliness and turn it into something productive.
I swore never to do another long-distance relationship…
and then I met my fiancé, a Japanese student studying abroad at my college for a year.
The best way to keep a long-distance relationship strong is to talk on the phone with your boyfriend while you’re both doing the same thing.
Watch a movie or TV show at the same time and share your reactions over the phone.
Keeping Communication Strong Sharing Your Life at a Distance Community Q&A Maintaining a long-distance relationship requires patience, creativity and a lot of trust.