In addition, we have been able to give glory to God by explaining our relationship to many curious friends and acquaintances, thus fulfilling our most important priority: to honor the God who has given us so much.
we would date differently, but God led us to many fun ideas and activities.
It means there is no boyfriend/girlfriend in the vocabulary.
It allows us to get to know lots of people; it provides us with the kind of education and knowledge that you really can’t get any other way before getting to the engagement stage of the relationship. And unfortunately, it’s a super lame Halloween and you only get to choose one type of candy to fill your bag with this year.
And when weary travelers in the desert see that glitter on top of the pyramid from far off, they don’t see what underlies the jewel to give it such prominence and hold it so high.” Third, dating is just fun!
It’s a learning experience, and in dating and pairing off, there are small things we get to practice that can apply in a future marriage.
Lowell Bennion once said that relationships between young men and young women should be built like a pyramid. And the ascending layers are built of things like time, understanding, respect, and restraint.
In other words, it prevents things from moving on too quickly with one (or more than one) individual–action that could lead to feelings of guilt and dislike. Hafen, stated in a BYU Fireside in 1983, “Be friends first and sweethearts second.There’s this complicated thing called “dating.” If you’re like me, you’ve had days where you wish it were nonexistent — like the time you stayed up late waiting for a text that never came, or when the first kiss went seriously wrong, or when you were so confused about whether or not you were willing to marry this person that you kind of just wanted to move to another country and start the whole process over again.It’s on days like these that arranged marriage begins to look pretty appealing.He elaborates with this as he addresses the men: “Gather your courage and look for someone to pair off with.Start with a variety of dates with a variety of young women, and when that phase yields a good prospect, proceed to courtship. That is what the Lord intends for His young adult sons and daughters.” So before we get into a steady relationship, we should date a variety of individuals until “that phase yields a good prospect,” and then it’s okay to get into what we call an exclusive relationship.
Upon first discussing our feelings for each other and our intention to pursue a deeper friendship, Rahel and I agreed that we wanted to keep any deep or involved physical intimacy for after our wedding, whether we eventually married each other or someone else.