Over to Claudia for some savvy advice on how to keep that online chat going in the right direction.So you’ve passed the awkward “first contact” stage of online dating.Pretty much everyone loves talking about “numero uno” – so give your partner an opportunity to start gabbing away!Asking light, simple questions is a sure fire way to keep a conversation going online.Today, I’m delighted to say that our blog has been hijacked by the very cool dating expert, Claudia Cox.She is the author of ‘French Seduction Made Easy‘ and is passionate about sharing her expertise on communicating well in relationships especially via flirty texting.Don’t immediately start talking about adult toys or send her a “selfie” at the gym all pumped up post workout.
This dynamic can happen during the early stages of any romantic relationship, but when you meet online you have to navigate additional pitfalls, as well.
Going back to the good old questions, instead of asking him or her something dull such as “what did you eat for lunch? Ask “Why are you a cat person when everyone knows that dog people make better lovers? Nothing kills a conversation early on like pushing boundaries waaaay too far (like being outright mean or vulgar).
” Or poke fun at their answers in a flirty way (“Oh, you’re a Star Wars fan? When you’re messaging almost anonymously, it can be easy to exaggerate or outright lie to make yourself look better. One, because it will get awkward if you ever do meet up, and two, it’s human (and often ) to have flaws – embrace them, and your partner will too.
Flirting is fun, but when you’re doing it online you need to be slower about it than normal.
Because your partner can’t see you, or the signals you’re sending, flirting too early in an online exchange can be a huge turn-off.
If you meet online does that tend to make you more or less compatible? Those of us who met their partners online will find the results encouraging. In fact, people who met online were slightly less likely to divorce and scored slightly higher on marital satisfaction.” (Bohannon, 2013, Online marriage is a happy marriage). scientific support for what many of us have known for years – meeting someone online can work.