It's an awful, soul-crushing rollercoaster and every time someone sarcastically remarks how easy it is for people to get divorced or how so-and-so "just left their marriage," my head feels like it's about to explode. However when I would reveal to someone in whom I was potentially interested that I was separated, they invariably would shy away.
which is hard to come by for people like us- his passion is farming and he owns a farm, I am an outdoors girl who loves to get my hands dirty and spent years working on a farm (different type, but still a farm).family is not into farming, I just have always persued it and wanted it for future- the XW was an “inside girl” (just saying) He started talking about wanting to marry me about 3 months into our relationship. We did have a minor hiccup when the papers got written up and he took a week to grieve/reflect on the demise of his marriage (he was sure that he had finished grieving through the marriage counseling a year before, but they were still living together at the time), then he came back and our relationship is stronger than ever.
When you start dating someone else while you are separated, you make reconciliation more difficult. Unfortunately there are those of the opposite sex who would like to take advantage of your vulnerability.
Although pretending to be concerned about you, there are busy satisfying their own desires.
but she had her own apartment) and we knew from when we met that it was different.
We were both hesitant to get into something romantic right away given his situation, but after 3 weeks of hanging out 3-4 days a week just as friends (no touching, just hours and hours of fun and deep conversation) we kissed and became a couple.
They met young and had totally different views on everything.