"In about 20 percent of relationship homicides," explains Storm, "the killing itself was the first act of violence." In many such cases, she adds, the man uses emotional blackmail to keep a woman with him, and as long as that works, he doesn't need to resort to physical force.
Soft-spoken but with a sharp sense of humor, Kevin was a campus deejay and a history major.
\n Maggie Mulderrig remembers looking around the packed auditorium this past April, mentally checking off which of her friends were there.
Students had gathered at the request of the president of Gettysburg College, in Pennsylvania, to hear a disturbing announcement: One student had brutally killed another, but police still had not released the names.
"Most people become upset during a breakup," she says, "and lots of guys are needy and manipulative, but they don't commit murder."Experts say a guy who suddenly transforms from insecure to murderous could be called a timid killer: someone who, far from seeming violent or disturbed, is normally peaceful, even gentle…until rejection triggers deep-seated fears or urges.
Certainly, in the case of Kevin and Emily, there were no obvious warning signs that both their lives were about to be destroyed.
His name appeared in the newspaper for making the honor roll and for his arrest on murder charges only a few weeks apart.